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“My biggest issue with relationships was that I struggled to maintain my identity. I became so consumed by being everything and doing everything for my man that I expected little in return and received little. Because I didn’t want to be demanding I wanted to be ‘chill.’ Clearly, that never worked for me.”
“I knew the majority of the parenting would fall to me, along with the need to earn a living.
Full time care, full time parenting, full time educational supervision as our son can’t attend a bricks and mortar school, full time medical supervision, full time NDIS negotiation, full time jelly juggling.
Somehow. This had to be me.”
“My husband and I built a cocoon, somewhere warm and safe, just for us. My world revolved around the man I loved and nothing more. What we had, I thought, was perfect and I didn’t want anything to interfere. The problem with a cocoon though, is it keeps everything out, and keeps you in. You can’t grow in a confined space.”
"And suddenly there I was. A young mother with two children under 3, in a completely foreign country, having to find my feet. Yes, the excitement of something new and interesting was there, but when your husband begins work that very afternoon to start getting all the paperwork in… well, in hindsight, that first year was more of a shock to my system than I realised at the time. “
"When I get married, I am full of hopes and anticipation, but these dreams are shattered when I realise that I am married into an abusive household. I am expected to be a sex slave to my husband, and to serve them endlessly and never complain."
"Having a child with a severe disability forced me to go beyond my fears and to grow as a person beyond anything I could ever have imagined."
"The anger and shock over my father’s behavior made me question his love for me and the person who raised me."
At the age of 10 my life changed dramatically with my father suddenly dying. My mother remarried, and we were thrust us into a new world of domestic violence.
"The scary thing is that even when the boundaries were blurred and I was giving far more than I took, I didn’t leave. I kept giving… I kept bleeding… I kept hoping"
"What would you think about if you thought you were going to die? I hit that point in 2011. Nobody had been able to really help me, and I just got sicker and sicker."
"...despite being acutely aware of how PND had effected my own mother, I didn’t realise I was suffering post-natal depression myself after the birth of my son."
"By 22 I was injecting heroin every day and by 28 I thought there was no way out. I was so far removed from the girl before all the drugs. The innocent 11-year-old girl who didn't know how to deal with emotions or feelings, and didn't know how to ask for help."
"I realised I didn’t have to “find” myself, I just had to change that view on myself first. I had to learn to understand, trust, accept and love myself. Flaws and all."
"Around 3 years ago I went through a very messy break up with 3 best friends who had been in my life between 10 and 20 years."